Finding a Therapist
How to Choose a Therapist Who Is the Right Fit
Choosing a therapist comes down to four checks: they hold a license in the state where you will be during sessions, their approach suits what you want help with, the practical details work for you, and you feel able to talk openly with them. A short consultation call is the quickest way to test the fit.
Check the License and the State
A license means the therapist has met the state's requirements for graduate education, supervised practice and exams, and answers to a licensing board. In Texas, common licenses for therapists include LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist), LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor), LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) and licensed psychologist. You can confirm any of them through the state's online license search.
For online therapy, what counts is where you are during the session. A therapist generally needs to be licensed in the state where you are physically located at the time. Vanessa holds a Texas license, so her clients join every session from within Texas, and sessions may need to wait while you travel outside the state.
Look at How the Therapist Works
Approaches differ in how structured they are. Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is practical and focuses on the thoughts and habits that keep a problem going. Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) helps you make room for hard feelings while acting on what matters to you. Psychodynamic therapy looks at how earlier relationships shape patterns you repeat now.
Many therapists combine methods, and Vanessa describes her work as client-centered, with attachment-based, cognitive and mindfulness-based approaches tailored to each person. With couples, she uses the Gottman Method. The approach overview explains each method, and whatever the label, a therapist should be able to tell you in plain words how they would work with your concern.
Check the Practical Fit
With Vanessa, every session is 60 minutes, including the first, and held by secure video. Her practice is private pay. If your plan has out-of-network mental health benefits, she can provide a superbill for you to submit, though reimbursement depends on your plan. Cancelling takes 24 hours' notice, or a fee applies. Private-pay clients can also get a Good Faith Estimate of expected costs under the No Surprises Act.
Whoever you consider, a good match on paper still has to work in your week. Before you commit, it is worth knowing:
- How long sessions last and how often they usually happen
- The fee, how payment works and whether superbills are available
- The cancellation policy and how much notice it requires
- Whether sessions happen online, and what you need for a private video call
- Whether the therapist works with your main concern, or with couples
Questions to Ask in a Consultation
A consultation call lets you interview the therapist before committing to a first session. Vanessa offers a free 15-minute phone consultation, described step by step in what to expect from a free consultation.
Notice how the call feels as well as what is said: whether you felt listened to, whether the answers came in plain language, and whether you could imagine being honest with this person about something hard. Questions worth asking any therapist include:
- What experience do you have with what I am dealing with?
- What happens in a typical session with you?
- How will we know whether therapy is helping?
- What are your fees, and can you provide a superbill?
- What happens if I need to cancel or travel?
When to Keep Looking for a Different Therapist
Fit is personal, and needing a couple of tries is common. Signs the match is off include holding back things you want to say, feeling judged or rushed, or sessions that wander without a sense of direction.
If something feels wrong, try saying so in session first, since a therapist can only adjust what they know about. If it still does not fit, moving on is a normal part of finding the right person, and you can ask the therapist what kind of clinician might suit you better.
Questions
Frequently Asked Questions
If you will be in Texas during your sessions, yes. Licensing for online therapy follows where the client is physically located at the time of the session, so the therapist needs a Texas license no matter where they are. It also matters when you travel: a session taken from outside Texas may need to wait, even with a therapist you already see.
Most people have a reasonable sense within the first few sessions. The first one is mostly about history and goals, so judge it on whether you felt heard more than on progress. By the third or fourth session, you should have an idea of how the therapist works and whether the conversations are heading somewhere useful.
LMFT stands for Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. LMFTs complete graduate training and supervised clinical hours, and the state licenses them to provide therapy to individuals, couples and families, with particular attention to how relationships shape problems. Vanessa Gross, LMFT, is licensed in Texas, has been in practice for 7 years, and works with individual adults as well as couples.
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You don't have to know exactly what to say.
A free 15-minute phone consultation is a simple place to begin.